Why you shouldn’t do a Boudoir photo shoot…

I’m going to let you in on a little secret of mine, okay? You don’t have to keep it, in fact I’d love it if you did just the opposite.

I don’t Want you to do this for your partner.

What now? A nice chunk of my clients are in fact brides to be or newlywed, and yet here I am saying that I don’t want your boudoir shoot to be for a significant other. I should clarify, I hope that if you DO choose to share them with a special person that they are received well and cherished. But I don’t actually shoot with a partner in mind. The longer I’ve been a Boudoir Photographer the more I’ve learned how much of a beautiful and uplifting experience a Boudoir session can be for women when done correctly and by a trained professional. I’ve seen it empower women who then go on and do it in different ways for others, an unstoppable cycle of positivity. I’ve also seen women feel incredibly disappointed after gifting images of their body to their special someone. Whether it was poorly received (ew.) or worse, they were shamed for the choices they made because they wanted something, by the person who supposedly loves them the most. Can we get a collective “OH HELL NO” to that last bit?! Side note to that, if your finances are shared for whatever reason your partner should be involved or at least know you’re about to drop some dollars on something you want to do. I find that if they’re allowed in on the process, oh my god what a difference! I’ve also seen such loving and amazing support come through from clients spouses, so don’t worry there’s a positive side to all of this. Back to my main point though…

I can’t stress enough that your body isn’t a gift to give another person, it’s YOURS and it should be cherished and adored but not used as a currency. Obviously, these are my feelings are you are entitled to your own. However I do put my foot down and stop the notion that this is something you should do for your spouse, honey this is something you should do for YOU. Whether or not you take that BOMB boudoir album and gift it to your betrothed on your wedding day or anniversary that’s entirely up to you and I support that- I promise! As long as you are in it for yourself and absolutely LOVE how the whole shoot experience made you feel.

My goal is to make you feel beautiful as you are, because you are. Whether you want to keep it more covered up during your session or get a little ~saucier~ it’s entirely up to you. Whatever makes YOU feel the most beautiful, powerful and made of stardust (because hey, you are!)

Maybe I’m the worlds worst salesman, maybe I’m too honest. Maybe, just maybe it’s because I’m on a mission to make every single woman I work with feel entirely full on self love, acceptance and feminine power and not perpetuate and cling to the centuries old notion that we owe ANYONE our bodies for any reason. But hey, maybe it’s the bad salesman thing…

I’ll let you be the judge of that.